I had a few questions from guys about what to do if women don’t notice you. I’m just going to go into this a little bit in the way I work with some clients on this issue, and I’m just going to read a part of a book I’m reading at the moment called ‘The Physics of Miracles’ by Dr Richard Bartlett, where he looks at how physics talked about this, this… the way we perceive the world, and I hope this … you’re going to find this interesting and it’s going to change the way you view things.

‘So, first of all, you’ve got to realise that the left brain analyses the raw data that you receive and decides what information is relative to our continued survival. All other data is suppressed. Though perceived or recorded, it does not pass the gatekeeper of our left brain and remains hidden in the dark recesses of our subconscious awareness.’ Okay, so he carries on. ‘The conscious mind performs like a shutter. It takes very fast pictures and then places the information together seamlessly so you don’t notice, just like the movies where the action is not actually a flow of movement but a series of static slides. If we are looking at an object or information we can only consciously use less than 0.01% of the visible electromagnetic spectrum our eyes can detect. We cannot visually detect simultaneous channels of information because our left brain processes information in a series format – one slide at a time.’ He goes on to say ‘that is why we can only process 7, plus or minus 2 bits of data a second, whereas our right brain is much, much faster and it can view millions of bits of data in the same second,’ but…

So we’re not actually… , say when you’re crossing the road, you’re not looking at all the bits of gravel and stones that are on the road; you’re only looking for the most important bits. Your brain is scanning for the things that are going to cause you harm… to die. Those are the only important bits. If we picked up every piece of information that we saw in our surroundings we’d go crazy because there’s just billions of pieces of information, so what the brain does is it takes in about 15% of what we see and then the other 85% we make up about our environment just because it’s quicker, and it’s efficient, and that’s because… otherwise we’d be exhausted. 85% of what you see is simply made up from our past experiences.

So when a guy says ‘Oh, women don’t look at me’ what he’s doing in his reality is that from his past experiences of, say, a few nights out where he went out and he didn’t see any women looking at him, he’s coming from his belief system that he’s not attractive, so his belief is ‘I’m not attractive’ and so everything he sees is… (and it needs to be)… is coming in to back up that belief that women don’t find him attractive. So he’s scanning for all the information that validates that belief and makes up the rest in his mind, so literally you cannot women looking at you!!!… what you see, and what I see, and what other people see is really made up. It’s not actually what is there.

What I’m saying is just be open, just be open to another reality when you go out, just… that it is possible that women are actually looking at you but they’re better at hiding it than men because men stare, that maybe there are signals that they’re giving off like the way they touch their hair, or the way they position themselves that shows them, in their way, that they’re attracted to you. Just be open. Let go of your past reality and just for once, go out and say… “tonight I am open to whatever experience is there’ and just let go and see what happens.”

The more you notice of women being attracted to you… even if it starts by a single glance… will slowly start to erode your limiting beliefs about your precence in a social situation and you will begin to access a reality of women being attracted to you.

The one rule… don’t try and force this… just be open to other possible outcomes and let go.

I put in some cool little videos below just to show you that what we actually see might not be what another person sees and to kind of back up this point that what we see through our eyes is probably not the actual reality that is out there. So don’t believe what you see

The second photo has a link below it